I’m sure you’ve had days where you’re feeling messed up, and all you want is silence; and perhaps a little hug?
The kids get that too. Sometimes, all they need or want is a little hug and not a single word. They don’t want preaching, advice, reasoning, verbal comfort, encouragement, disciplining, or words of wisdom.
Sometimes when the kids cry; you don’t need to speak beyond the “do you want to talk about it now?” (provided you know why they are feeling the way they do, or you don’t think there is a sense of urgency.)
Don’t panic though, just let them know that you are right with them. Even in silence; you are right with them. Let them know that with you; they can ask for anything and you will try be there for them in any way possible.
And if you want to do more; you can try these suggestions:
a. Suggest Creating a Quiet Corner
Why not suggest that you both assign a space in the house as a Quiet Corner; where your kid can go to for quiet times. Turn this into a challenge or a project.
When you do this; I also suggest drawing up a list of rules so people would know rules and conditions to using the Quiet Corner including setting the time allowed for quiet times, or the kind of situations that allow users to use Quiet Corner, and other rules.
In addition, this project will bring a sense of comfort and relief from their current emotional turmoil.
b. Create Action Cards
Art & craft is an awesome activity to do when you’re feeling less than positive. When your kid is feeling down, get that box of crayons and thick pieces of paper out of the craft box, and make Action Cards.
First begin by writing down the list of feelings and actions one is allowed to do; on a piece of paper.
Then, make cards in two categories; one set with an emotion on each card, and the other set containing the actions available. This way; your kid can select a feeling card and an action card; so they can express how they feel and let you know what they would like to do; without having words go their way.
Place these cards somewhere where you kid can easily get to, and use when she or he feels a certain way.
Plus, this will also both enhance your relationships whilst improving your kid’s emotional expression confidence.
c. Quiet Time Timer
Get an alarm clock or timer; preferably one that allows you to set a few predetermined length of time. For example; 5 minutes, 10 minutes, and 15 minutes.
When your kid wants some quiet time – and hug time – user the timer; but ensure that it is your kid that chooses the time length. This will inspire your little one to manage their behaviors and expectations; whilst also giving you some time to gather your questions and words of comfort for the end of this quiet period.
There you go! Do you have more ideas? Let me know at firstname.lastname@example.org
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